A short letter to new health coaches:
Let yourself be new at this.
Let yourself make mistakes.
Let yourself start.
Let yourself learn through experience.
I know there are so many things to learn along the way…the technology is enough to make most great health coaches decide they’re no good at this self-employed gig.
Stick with it.
Repeat this line: I’m learning. I’m focusing on this now.
No, you don’t have to pretend you’re already an expert.
The words you use matters.
If you lead with “I’m not good at that,” you won’t be open to the opportunity and reality that you can learn.
Do you ever hear yourself say “I’m not good at this stuff” whether it is audible to others or just in your heart?
How does it feel?
If it doesn’t feel good, clearly that is someone else’s messaging.
You may not learn through someone else’s template, on their timeline, nor will it have to look the way they do it.
But to say “I’m not good at that,” is more often about keeping it SAFE and is almost always untrue.
It is painful to hear those messages over and over.
It hurts less to not bother trying.
As a teacher, I’d hear it from our newer high school students all the time, especially in classes where a lot of writing took place.
They had been told so many times by other adults, kids, and themselves that they just weren’t “good at that.”
If you don’t have to learn, you don’t have to receive feedback, feel uncomfortable, or grow in that area.
Choosing to start, make mistakes, and learn is the difficult choice.
(a message to myself, my clients, my loved ones, my kids, and conversations we have in coaching in community)